when strategies fall short….

By Victoria Nabukeera

In life everyone wants to win, to be at the top or to never go down. but what happens when it never works out. here our emotional and mental self is tested to see how we can cope with the outcome.

We are taught to believe we have to win always and that failure is the end of it all.

What we forget is that life doesn’t have a straight path: for us to win you have to keep trying and trying which is tiring sometimes.

Failure makes you feel hopeless, less of yourself, makes you feel that it is the end of it all. I am a victim to that but somehow, I get the guts to step up.

We measure failure differently and this is connected to how each individual perceives it. to some its total loss, to some is not meeting a deadline, to some its nothing happening at all and the impact hits different.

I’ve met people who take it on positively and I wonder how they do it. I’ve sat down with them and they shared the following ideas.

• when you fail stand up and own it up and move one
• failure doesn’t mean you have lost it all
• loss comes in to show you are on the wrong path
• being lost keeps you focused to better yourself since you’re searching for a solution.
• lastly seek God, he has the best answers always.

All these views put some sense into me and somehow, I deviated my mind from thinking that failure means the end of it all.

It’s just that the moment it happens, it’s very shocking, uncalled for and also turns on the panic button. when the panic button is on, its where more mistakes are made, unauthentic habits come up all because you in survival mode and failing to accept it.

How do we accept failure?

• First Go Back to The Drawing Table and Know What Could Have Brought About Why You Failed
• When You Discover What the Cause Could Be Then Rule It Out and Look for A Solution.
• Do Research or Liaise with Experts to Mentor You on Ways to Deal With Failure.
• When You Get the Solutions, Put Them into Practice and Don’t Be Scared To Keep.
• Implement Changes That Is to Say Apply Lessons Learned to Improve Future Outcomes.

There is so much that goes on in our lives on a daily that sometimes may not be explained or put out there, though failure is what you can’t put out there, for fear of judgment. funny enough you find that most people you fear to express it to go through the same thing and in the long run all you need is to deal with it by keeping on trying.

Why is it hard for one to fully accept failure?

The sense of loss. failure can feel like loss of control or identity sometimes. usually causes people to isolate, go silent and also develop unnecessary patterns that could lead to depression eventually.

The fear of judgment from what others might think or say. it’s hard to take on the responsibility to accept you failed, this is because one wants to blame it on someone and feel safe afterwards than actually dealing with it.

Emotional attachment. personal investment and emotions can make it tough to accept failure. well once we fail, we lose our self-most of the time it takes a strong one to handle failure: this doesn’t mean that failure should be for the weak ones what I mean is that most cases the ability to handle success depends on the person’s strength mentally and physically.

With all this said, is failure supposed to be part of us or not, I would love to know your views? is it possible that there are people who have been having a straight line ever since they had to start a new life, a business, a project, take on an education and if so, how did they do it?

One thing you must not forget is in every failure there is a lesson to it. it is a time given to you to re-set and become a better you.