How about modesty?

“Modesty is the only sure bait when you angle for praise”. Lord Chesterfield

BY VICTORIA NABUKEERA

This is one of the most skipped topics worldwide. It is whispered within chats but not out loud at the table. Most of the time, when talked about, it yields discomfort. I have come to understand that everyone has a different view about modesty based on where they come from spiritually, culturally, and family background.

Modesty is the art of being decent and well-groomed or a mode of dress and deportment that intends to avoid the encouragement of sexual attraction in others. This cuts across to both women and men; however, the weight is always put onto women to keep up thought, even though men tend to be immodest too.

It has come to my understanding that it is never the clothes, it’s the body putting them on; most people think the clothes are what make the body look good. The trick to it, people, is to find an outfit that fits your body well. The clothes don’t create shape; they just help cover up. Your body is already beautiful and complete since it is made in the image of God.

Therefore, there is no need for one to appear ripped. The ongoing belief of revealing the body is breaking so many norms culturally and spiritually. Spiritually, our bodies are a temple of God, and culturally, one has to be decent, so how do you expect to achieve both, and yet you don’t do so?

We are confused by what the world does, and it has taken away peace, decency, and the good thoughts of humanity. We think nudity is the new thing. To us women, it’s so harsh in that you will always attract the wrong influence, you’re judged behind your back, yet no one steps up to correct you. Men normally dodge the criticism because they think their body doesn’t have much to reveal, but it does, too.

There is beauty in a decent cover-up, it earns us more respect, esteem, takes over rooms that you thought you couldn’t, keeps you next to good company: to those in marriages you family looks at you as a woman of virtue, keeps you next to God (I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes” (1 Timothy 2:9, NIV). “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Immodesty is fun until you are actually insulted or feel out of place where you are, or when people use your image as insult.

You can never be late to actually change; it’s a long process, you will doubt yourself, ask questions if it’s worthy, but in the long run, it is. It’s a beautiful feeling and makes you a better person. Doesn’t take much to be one; all you have to do is consider a change in the wardrobe, watch podcasts on modesty, do some research about the topic, and know exactly where to start from.

I’ve seen women who have transitioned from nudity to modesty. Their testimonies to the change and how it has impacted them greatly. And I figured, why not try turn to that path too. I do appreciate the moslem culture based on dressing and why they do it, and in my conclusion, it has helped out. They do cover from head to toe and still look beautiful and respectful. Being modest doesn’t mean you don’t get noticed or recognized at all.

We are scared of our own bodies so we confine in showing a little skin to make us accepted yet its not true.

The end.